Shooting too high, too low, Goldilocks and Divorce.
I had a consultation this week with a spouse who was beginning to gather information for possibly proceeding with a divorce. I gave her information about mediation to share with the absent spouse in the event she could persuade him to consider the mediation option. ...
How Long Does Spousal Support Last?
One very important and challenging issue in divorce is figuring out how the family finances will be handled once the couple has separated. When children are involved the management of the children’s needs is addressed through child support. Whether or not there are...
Divorce and Lessons About Letting Go From a Cat.
There is a lot to grapple with when you decide to divorce. There is anger, frustration, disappointment, fear of what lies ahead, and often an overwhelming sense of failure. These feelings can be paralyzing and can get in the way of moving forward and making sound...
Debt, Divorce and Untangling Liability
One often extremely challenging issue in divorce is figuring out a way to fairly divide any accumulated debt as well as what to do with assets that have outstanding loans held in joint name. The divorce judgment is binding against the couple getting divorced but...
Why Must we Disclose in Divorce?
Perhaps one of the most challenging and time consuming tasks required in a California divorce is disclosure. Before a Judge will grant a divorce or legal separation both parties must certify that they have fully disclosed all of their assets and liabilities, have...
Mothers, Fathers and Divorce.
This week’s blog focuses on our parents and the important role each parent has to play in the lives of the children. An important task in every divorce involving children is to find a way to preserve a healthy relationship between the child and each of their parents.
Decisions in Marriage and Divorce: From Me to Us and Back Again.
When we are young our parents are involved in a lot of our decision making. As we get older we take over this responsibility and start getting the opportunity to make our own decisions. When we enter romantic relationships and marriage we move to a new phase where...
Embracing Change
This week is a week of change for me. My wonderful assistant, Rosie, is saying goodbye and my new assistant Brianna is coming into the fold. We are creatures of habit and change can be uncomfortable, challenging and stressful. It is a part of life and the sooner we...
Sound Decision Making and Divorce
I spent my coffee time this morning pondering how some seemingly insignificant decisions I have made over the course of my lifetime have altered my path and left me sitting in a halo of lamplight in this comfy leather chair in a home filled with a sleeping wife,...
Child Sharing and Divorce
Perhaps one of the most difficult things that parents must grapple with when the decision is made to divorce is accepting that they no longer have the opportunity to spend every day with their children. Factoring in the need for children to attend school and the...