I have always counted privacy as one of the great benefits of Divorce mediation. With a litigated divorce each party prepares declarations that get filed with the Court, taking the skeletons out of the closet, airing the dirty laundry and pointing out each other’s...
I recently completed a mediation with a couple whom I had originally met with for a consultation over a year ago. At that time they ended up choosing a different path and had each hired their own attorney to handle the divorce. After a year of litigation they both...
Ever since I took my very first divorce mediation training course back in 2003 I have tried to do my part in educating the public on what should be the standard way to get divorced. Why wouldn’t couples first choose to attempt to sort out their divorce issues in a...
When a couple decides they are getting a divorce, or when either spouse begins to feel like it could be an option, it is quite easy for each of them to contact their own divorce attorney and schedule a consultation to have their initial questions answered and to come...
When we get married we make a conscious decision to become entangled with our partner. As they say, we “tie the knot.” We move from being individuals to being a partnership. We entangle our personal lives, our finances and our assets and obligations. We may...
I spent a number of years serving as a board member for the school that my children attended. It was our practice to start off each meeting with a selected study for about 20 minutes or so, focused on either further educating our work as board members or seeking to...
A common subject of conversation when I am working with couples who are resolving their divorce through mediation is a desire on their part to keep things very simple. Sometimes when it comes to sharing the children they are confident that they will be able to work...
How many times have we seen the disclaimer “ the information provided does not, and is not intended to, constitute legal advice and instead all information, content, and materials available are for general informational purposes only?” Everything that comes out of...
One of the challenging puzzles involved in each divorce is figuring out the transitional and ongoing management of the finances of the family which initially involves covering the joint finances of the couple in one home then expands into the need to manage the...
Divorce Mediation is all about charting a path for the divorcing couple to get educated so they can make well informed decisions, exchange relevant information so they can stand on an equal footing as they make those decisions, and to provide them with the...
For Grateful Dead fans there is this time period called “Days Between” which is the stretch between August 1st when Jerry Garcia, one of the band’s founding members, was born (8/1/42) and August 9th, when he died (8/9/95). “Days Between” also happens to be one of...
With Divorce Mediation there are two big steps that need to be taken to prepare a couple to be in a place to make the important and lasting decisions they will need to make in their divorce. The first part is getting educated on the law and the issues. It is...
Divorce poses the very unique challenge of finding a practical way to bring the marriage to an end while keeping an eye to preserving all the other important relationships that have grown over time from the intersection of the worlds of the two spouses. Finding a way...