There are some major benefits to consider, if you and your spouse can work together and you agree to mediate and design your own Divorce Solution.
You design your own agreement, rather than allowing others to make decisions for you. The agreement that you create in mediation includes everything that is important to you both.
In mediation, unlike in court, there are no unpleasant or stressful surprises. The discussion continues at your own pace, until each of you are convinced that the agreement you designed will work for you.
If you have children, the mediator helps you design a parenting plan that works for your family. You have time to try out different parenting plans, before you sign an agreement.
You maintain privacy by keeping your matter out of Court. The Mediator will handle getting the necessary paperwork filed and you will not need to present your issues to a Judge for them to decide.
By choosing divorce mediation, you and your spouse can work things out together, instead of engaging in an expensive and stressful legal battle.
You maintain control, and set your own pace. You won't be frustrated by unexpected court delays or pressured to meet inconvenient court-imposed deadlines. Your mediation can proceed as slowly, or as rapidly, as you choose.
Mediation softens the tension between the two of you and enables you to work together as parents, and even to remain friends, if you wish.
The mediator listens to you and your spouse listens too. You get a chance to be heard, in a private setting, instead of sitting in a courtroom.
Because mediation is focused on the future, everyone searches for win-win solutions. The result is a positive process, where you move forward, rather than lingering in the past.
In mediation you take it upon yourself to make your own decisions. It is less likely that you will have to return to Court in the future because you have each participated in reaching the outcome of the case and it was not forced upon either of you by the Court.
You and your spouse know the most about your situation so you have the most informed people making the decisions.
Successful Mediation places you and your spouse in a better position to communicate more effectively after the divorce when new disputes may arise.
Mediation avoids court battles which adds to the stress of the divorce and often further deteriorate the trust and respect between you and your spouse.
Mediation is confidential and your personal issues are not aired in court rooms and publicly accessible court files.
Your children are not exposed to all the negatives that come with a contested traditional divorce.
Divorce mediation is cost-effective because you are not paying for the fight, but for work on coming up with a solution.